Ngokuqhelekileyo, abafazi abangaphezu kweminyaka engamashumi amathathu baye bafumana yonke into ekufuneka badlule kuyo.Xa kuthethwa ngokwabelana ngesondo, abasenabo ubuhlaza obubenza babe neentloni xa bebona abanye bephuzana besebancinci.Uninzi lwabasetyhini abaqolileyo sele benesethi yabo yezakhono zesini, njengokuqhula, ukuzonwabisa, ukuma, njl.
Ndinomhlobo osenyongweni ogama linguLisa.Umyeni wakhe kwafuneka ahlulwe kuye nabantwana ngenxa yezizathu zomsebenzi, yaye babenokuphinda badibane inyanga enye okanye ezimbini ngonyaka.Ngamanye amaxesha ndiyamsizela.Udinwe kakhulu ngumsebenzi kwaye kufuneka akhulise abantwana.Ndimcebisa ukuba akhululeke ngakumbi xa enexesha.Usoloko encuma ngokukrakra aze athi, “Nam ndiyafuna ukuyenza loo nto!”Ewe, ngubani onokufuna ukusebenza nzima kangaka?Bendincwinela qha ndimkhuthaza ndisithi, “You are a great pseudo-single mother” lonto imenze waphantse wantywizisa iinyembezi.
Ngenye imini ndandincokola naye ndathi, “Umyeni wakho ubuyile emva kwexesha elide kangaka.Kufuneka wenze ntoni ukuba uneemfuno zesini?"Wathi, “Ukuba ndinezo ngcinga, ndiza kuzincama ngoko nangoko, kungenjalo ndingenza ntoni.”"Ngaba awuzange ucinge ngokufowuna okanye ukuncokola naye ngevidiyo?"Watsho ngoncumo oluphakathi, “Kuyaxaka, andazi ukuba ndenze njani, ndisenokungayamkeli, kwaye andazi nokuba akazukuyithanda na.Sisibini esibadala ngoku, ungamvumeli andihleke.”Watsho ehleka.
Kodwa kwiintsuku nje ezimbalwa ezidlulileyo, uye waxoxa nam ngezinto zokudlala zesini.Ndavuya kakhulu ekuqaleni.Kakade ke, olu vuyo lwalubangelwa kukuba ndandivuyiswa kukuba wayenesimo sengqondo esinjalo ngobomi.Ndambuza "Kutheni ucinge ngokuthenga iithoyi zesondo?".Wathula ixeshana wathi, “Ndidiniwe kancinci.Kukude kakhulu.Kuzo zombini ezi hemispheres, qho ndimfuna, akakho.Ndifuna ukwabelana naye, kodwa akakabikho.Eyona nto indenza ndibe buhlungu ngakumbi kukuba, Akakuqondi ukuzinikela kwam kunye nemo yam.Unxibelelana nam kube kanye ngexesha elithile, kodwa uziva engonwabanga kwaye engaqhelekanga nangefowuni.”…”Ke ndiyacinga, ukuba ndinokuzisombulula ngokwam iimfuno zam ngokwasemzimbeni, ndingaphila ngolu hlobo ubomi bam bonke? ”Watsho encumile.Ndandibhidekile.Nangona ndisoloko ndithetha kakhulu, ndijongene nomhlobo wam osenyongweni weminyaka emininzi, isithukuthezi sakhe sandishiya ndingathethi.Bendimazi ukuba uzibambe ngeenkophe iinyembezi, naye ebeyazi ukuba bendizibambezela ekumwoleni.Sahlala nje sobabini ithutyana, sivuthela umoya obandayo, ukuze sigcine isidima sobudala bethu.
Ixesha lokuposa: Oct-19-2023
